I think I'm still a little dumbstruck about the whole thing.
Joey has been having some "boy related" issues and when I called the specialists office yesterday to schedule an appointment she asked what he is being seen for.
I briefly explained.
We adopted him about 6 months ago
He's been having issues blah-bitty-bitty-blah.
She's says ok, hooks us up for an appointment on Friday and then she said it.
"Since he's adopted make sure you bring your custody papers with you."
what was that?
Am I to assume that for the rest of my son's life I will need to travel around with our adoption paperwork to prove to anyone who demands it that he is my son?
Is there a rash of people bringing in children to your clinic for treatment that don't "belong" to the grown ups that brought them there?
His last name is the same as mine.
You have never even seen him.
The only way you would even know he was adopted was because I told you....
had I known you would then demand this of me....I wouldn't have told you.
Huge error on my part.
at the time
it was pertinent information as to why he is 7 years old and we are just now dealing with this issue
now I know better.
I think I am a little in shock that when we walk in there on Friday I will have to prove that I am his mother.
"Hello. I'm Sonia.
This is my adopted son Joey.
Here is his citizenship certificate.
Here are our reciepts from the airline when we flew over to meet him.
Here is a baby picture of him the day he was found alone on the steps.
Here is his school registration forms and the contact information for his soccer coach and three other references you can call that will prove our "custody" of him.
Might I provide you with anything else? A piece of hair for a DNA sample perhaps?"
I'm not embarassed or ashamed or anything of that nature that he is adopted
quite the contrary,
but I also don't feel like stamping a big letter A on his forehead and referring to it all.the.time.
I guess I don't have a point to all of this other than to sayI find it incredibly disheartening.
Not only will we forever have to put "unknown" on all of his medical and family history questions
but now to have to bring my son to them and show them his "paperwork".
People that don't terribly care for or about him.
Yet they subject him to the burden of proof.
He's not just adopted.
He wasn't just an orphan.
And those factors do not define him.