In the middle of looking at China pictures last night we came across this
a picture of us with his beloved "ya-ya" and his "China baba".
at which point Jacob said,
"Jacob no China mommy. Jacob baby, lay down, no mommy."
"Ya-ya, pick Jacob up."
My 7 year old sweet boy
He knows that he was abandoned.
Oh my heart.
Now before you go on to give me a big fat, "Duh. Of course he knows he was an orphan."
Think about that.
I didn't meet these boys and say, "Hi. I'm your new mom. Want to go get some ice cream and oh by the way are you aware of your previous orphan status? Tell me what you know of your abandonment."
Further, these kids were surrounded by other kids with their same "status".
This was normal life to them.
How much did they know?
How much did they understand?
I. Had. No. Idea.
Where we go from here?
There is no road map for this.
There is no one size fits all hearts solution to explaining to your 7 year old the intricacies of an entire country's social & political makeup.
There is no How To manual on how to properly tell your child about his abandonment.
One moment, one breath, one conversation at a time I guess.
Sweet, sweet boy.
And I will restore to you the years the locusts have eaten. Joel 2:25